lifeinflux

A model system

 I figured California would be like all the other places I lived.  You know how it goes.  You're SO excited and everything is bright and shiny and new and then small bumps appear in the road and all of a sudden you realize that you're the same, and life is pretty much the same and stress is going to happen no matter where you live.   And then you wake up one morning, drink your coffee and you look around at all the boxes left to unpack after three weeks in the house.  Then a negative thought pop...

A Gagaducation

On Tuesday night, Drue and I drove to San Jose to attend the Lady Gaga concert.   I was concerned that the show, with its over-the-top theatrics and reported in-your-face sexuality might be a bit much for Drue.  That said, she's a huge Lady Gaga fan and tickets were somehow, amazingly, miraculously available (and they were GOOD tickets) so I made Drue a deal:  pay for a nice chunk (1/2) of your own ticket and we'll go.   Drue checked out her savings account balance, we chatted about the number o...

Year in review

Now that life has finally slowed down a bit, I wanted to take a moment and reflect on the last year.  Granted, it's been more than a year since I started writing here on lifeinflux (July 27th to be exact); however, there have been some pressing matters to attend to in the last 10 days.  What have I been busy doing, you ask?   Well, I just moved my family, my business, and pretty much my entire life across the country from Fairfax, VA to the Bay Area of California for example.   And since I own a...

Family Matters

When I was little, I wanted to be a world famous concert pianist with three kids and live in New York in an amazing flat in the Village and throw fabulous parties and have my entire family attend and I just knew I would be loved and adored.  Most importantly, I felt that I would have achieved a measure of success and my father would finally say those words I longed to hear, "I love you and I'm proud of you."  I knew adulthood would be my vindication after a rollercoaster childhood and that I wou...

Of vegans and shoes

To follow up on my earlier New York post, I wanted to write about the rest of my trip from a few weeks ago.   Before I get started, I want to assure everyone that no vegans or shoes were harmed for the sake of this post. After losing a heel to Central Park in ways I cannot explain because I have no idea why that particular heel snapped off at that particular moment, I caught a cab and met Magda at the designated shoe store. I figured Magda must have some incredible in at this place because t...

In a New York minute…

So it's been awhile since I posted because between coordinating the move, my company, ongoing contracts, business development for new contracts, raising Drue, dealing with two needy pets, and hustling to ensure my Drama Club program will continue without my daily presence, I've been a bit busy.    That said, I just had to post about my business trip a few weeks ago.  I love going to New York and love hanging with my friend Magda so the fact that I got to be in New York and hang with Magda all on...

Ode to my cat who chews cords

Mimir goes by many names - Meer, Meemsy, Pooh Bear, Tiger Cat.   And then there is my personal favorite - Mimir Damnit - which is probably the name the cat is called more than any of the others.    Granted, in the past, calling the cat "Damnit" has gotten me in trouble.   Who can ever forget their first call by their child's teacher asking that you come in for a meeting.  And who can forget the ensuing discussion of your child's family tree whereupon you find a picture of an orange blob with the...

Living in sin…

As many of you know,  Jason and I have lived together, post-divorce, since November of 2006.  Drue and I moved from the Research Triangle Park are of North Carolina to the Fairfax area near Washington DC.  Why we moved is a post in and unto itself, so we'll leave it for another time.    Suffice it to say that we moved and he moved and somehow, thanks to the financial reality of NoVA aka being ridiculously overpriced in everything, we ended up living together.    And living together is not someth...

Decisions, decisions

2010 has started off with a bang.  When I look back six months ago and the level of unhappiness in my life verses today and the level of satisfaction and happiness I feel, I know that I am one lucky girl.   When I wrote my list of 101 things in 1001 days, I had no idea that my little company would explode, bringing in enough income to support myself and another developer along with the occasional freelancer.   Wow!   I am not complaining but I do find myself split between doing what I want work-...

The real meaning of love (and tolerance)

I don't think any other image sums up Drue's and Mimir's relationship as well as this one. Do I need to say more?